When love is in full bloom and all is well with the world, relationship counselling is the last thing on a person’s mind. However, in most relationships, at some point, that love can be tested and conflicts arise. Sometimes, involving an independent counsellor can be beneficial to resolve problems and arrive at amicable solutions.
Relationship counsellors help to deal with problems in an already existing relationship, advice on how to improve a relationship that may (or may not) have particular issues. It may be about learning how to actually form a relationship, coping with a relationship that has broken down, or assistance in getting help or improving a relationship that is violent or abusive.
Many factors can contribute to problems within relationships, from expecting a baby, losing a job, moving home, having a health scare to one party having an affair. The consequences of having a relationship in crisis can be very distressing and upsetting, for both parties.
Some issues that couples may face:
- Constantly arguing
- Feeling ‘stuck’- things not changing, no matter how many arguments occur
- Ineffective communication
- Fear of commitment
- Sexual problems
- The impact of losing a job or changing jobs
- The impact of having a baby
- Coping with the loss of a child
- Coping with illness or disease within the family
- The impact of a miscarriage or termination
- Fertility problems
- The impact of an affair
- Financial worries
- Impact of extended family influences
- Violence or abuse
- Drug or alcohol problems
- Possible separation or divorce
Sometimes, with a third party present, couples may find communication more honest, open and easy. The idea is not to apportion blame, but to speak freely, look at the situation from a different angle and hopefully, improve the relationship.
Many couples benefit from relationship counselling, whether it be because they alter and improve their relationship or decide to split up go their separate ways. Often opening up and talking about differences actually helps a relationship progress in a positive direction.
Relationship counselling can help:
- Create a better understanding of the other person, including their differences
- Communicate more effectively with one’s partner, even about difficult subjects
- Acceptance that both parties have different values and advice on how to deal with this
- Couples be more open and honest with each other
- Understand and deal with each other’s emotions better
- Build or re-build trust
- Improve intimacy
- Repair the damage of actions/incidents in the past
- Gain a better understanding of oneself and the other person
If you are concerned that you or someone you know may require help and advice please call the Via Clinic on 01372 363939